Often we hear about what we should do, must have and cannot be without. Here’s the flip side for a change. Here are four things you can give up and do very well without.
1. Give up relationships that don’t make you feel good.
Appreciate those that surround you with good feelings and bring positive energy into your life. Recognise those who bring negativity and make you feel bad about yourself, unhappy or unworthy. You have the choice whom you spend time with, so make a conscious decision to be with people where you can be yourself and be appreciated for who you are, as you are. Allow yourself to spend time with people who are free and happy.
2. Give up whatever is holding you back.
Ask yourself what’s holding you back right now. Is it food, your relationship, your time management? Figure out what exactly is holding you at ransom in your life right now and give it up.
3. Give up on perfectionism.
Accept who you are today – just as you are and stop trying to be perfect, both in what you say, what you do and in your surroundings. Your real friends will love because you give such a warm welcome, not because your house is always tidy, they will love you when you have a big spot on your nose because you are normal and they will appreciate that they don’t have to be perfect in your company too. Trying so hard can be exhausting and remember you are perfect, just the way you are.
4. Give up your fear.
Fear is something you can do without. Fear of not being good enough, fear of being over dressed, under dressed, not being hired, not being invited, being left on your own….. the list goes on forever. Fear is almost always about something that hasn’t happened yet, and may never happen. Living in a state of fear gives up your power to stuff that is in the future, and often stuff that you have no control of. It’s a waste of emotional time and energy that will weigh you down. When you are worried and in this state of fear, bring yourself back into the now and remind yourself that often the tiniest shift can make the world of a difference.
In the Eckhart Tolle book The Power of now, he reminds us that the difference between ‘Happiness is nowhere’ and ‘Happiness is now here’ is just a simple move of only one letter.